Update 2015-09-29: This post is now over four years old, so I wanted to come back and update it. Happily, I still have no problems with sleeping (knock on wood). Second, the technology originally described below has been updated. I now use a small tablet (an old Microsoft Surface RT) that I sit on top of the open middle drawer of my nightstand, and still use the Sleepphones plugged into the Surface. I then use our NetFlix, Hulu Plus (now commercial free tier!), and Amazon Instant/Prime Video for my viewing selections.
I have all of the video players configured to only play a single episode, then stop, which prevents video from playing all night. The position on top of the middle drawer means the screen is lower than my body line in bed, so there is no direct light shining over to Marie’s side. And I still keep the brightness at the lowest setting, to reduce flicker.
Over the years I have gone through a number of different series as my sleep-shows. The rotation has included Seinfeld, Everybody Loves Raymond, The Larry Sanders Show, Community, and 30 Rock. Suffice it to say that I have seen every episode of those sitcoms several times, so watch out if we ever play trivia games about any of them. To reiterate, the selection of viewing choice, for me, is based on the following criteria:
- Something I already know, so it’s not engaging in the sense of keeping me awake to find out what happens next. I already know all the details of all the episodes for these shows, so I’m never kept awake waiting for a narrative surprise.
- Something that’s funny. There are certainly dramatic/scary shows that I enjoy, but they don’t relax me and, for me, don’t hold up on repeat viewing in the way that a well-done sitcom can. Plus, I’d much rather go to sleep smiling and laughing as opposed to grimacing.
- Something I like and that holds up to repeat viewings. This narrows it down to the shows that are, to me, reasonably timeless with their sense of humor.
- No current events. If they are fresh they stir up my righteous outrage, and if they are old they irritate the heck out of me.
- Nothing violent or scary, even if it’s funny. I’m a regular consumer of shows and movies that contain violence, horror, and scares, but not as a sleep aid, thank you very much.
- No movies. This is a more recent guideline. Back in the day I used to watch movies to fall asleep all the time, but that was when I was just learning this technique and my sleep routine was still subject to regular disruption. The comfort of a two hour movie gave a nice runway to insure that I had enough distraction to get to the sleep part, even if it took a couple of hours. Now, however, I go to sleep within a few minutes, usually, and find that a long form movie will actually reach into my sleeping brain and wake me back up to view a favorite scene or line.
- So, that really narrows it down to relatively inoffensive sitcoms, at least for me.
If you decide to try or adopt this technique, your selection of viewing material will need to meet your needs, not mine, and I share the bullet points above only to illustrate the process I went through when coming up with my go-to viewing solutions. To reiterate what is stated below, I am sharing what worked for me in the hopes that it might directly help others, or indirectly let them know that the ‘standard’ sleep hygiene solutions don’t work for everyone, so keep trying things that you think might work for you, and happy sleeping!
Original article is below:
First, let me say that I am not a doctor and I make no claims that what worked for me will work for anyone else, or that anyone else should try the things described here. However, I did want to relate what worked for me so that others who may have had it work for them could see they are not alone, or those thinking about trying it will see that there is at least one case where it worked. The ‘cure’ described here goes against every piece of conventional wisdom and medical advice that I have ever seen about insomnia, which made me doubly motivated to share it, since I know that it works for me.
When I was in my early teens I had an episode of sleep paralysis, described here. It was very disturbing, and from that time up until my 40’s, I struggled with insomnia. I tried many things:
Sleeping pills: knocked me out, but I did not feel rested, and I did not want to take pills regularly even if they worked.
Sleep hygiene: trying to sleep in a dark, quiet place simply does not work for me, to this day, and all the wind-down, no-TV, no-computer stuff did nothing more than make me even more unable to sleep.
No caffeine: I would go caffeine free for months, with no effect.
No food after 6pm: Made no difference.
Diet/exercise: No difference.
I tried anything and everything, but I would just lay wide awake, mind racing, then typically fall asleep at 5-6am, then have to wake up at 7am and start all over again. This went on, to varying degrees, for *decades*.
However, as the years passed I found that there were certain combinations of factors that usually resulted in me falling asleep. I’m a fairly old fart, and when I was growing up there weren’t VCRs, DVDs, or TiVos, there was just the TV, and what was on, was on, and that was it. However, once the age of VCRs started, I began collecting movies, usually my old favorites. And I began to notice that when I couldn’t sleep, and I would go out to my recliner and pop in an old, favorite, well-known movie, I would usually go to sleep in my chair, and usually stay asleep.
And, if I happened to wake up, I could rewind the movie to where I had fallen asleep, start watching again, and fall back to sleep. And this worked pretty much like clockwork. Not perfect, but it worked 80%-90% of the time. In fact, it worked so well that it started to relieve the tension that I felt at bed time, and sometimes allowed me to fall asleep in bed and get a good night’s sleep, because I knew that if I found I couldn’t sleep, I could go out to the living room, pop in an old movie, recline, and go to sleep.
I realized that having the distraction of something to watch, and having it be something that was entertaining (because I already knew I liked it) without being engaging (because it was something I had already seen and knew the story), allowed me to disconnect and drift off to sleep.
Watching something new didn’t work. Watching the news didn’t work. Listening to music made my skin crawl. Reading would rarely work, because I couldn’t force myself to reread books that I already knew, and new books either bored me because they sucked or engaged me because they were good, but in neither case did it put me to sleep.
Then, as cable TV channels proliferated, it became even easier, as all the old shows that I knew and loved were in high rotation on Nickelodeon, TBS, WGN, local affiliates, etc. So, I didn’t necessarily need to go out to the living room and pop in a tape, I could watch the TV in the bedroom and get the same result, usually.
However, watching TV in the bedroom wasn’t necessarily universally popular either, as the flickering images and sounds that put me to sleep didn’t necessarily work the same magic on my wife. Also, it was hit or miss on finding something sleep-inducing.
Then along came TiVo, and the advent of cheap, small LCD televisions. Today, we have a regular TV and TiVo in the bedroom, but I also have a small LCD TV (7″) on my side of the bed, below the level of the mattress where only I can see it, also connected to the TiVo. I also have a pair of SleepPhones plugged into the little TV, which I can wear to go to sleep. So, now, my nightly routine is usually to turn on my little bedside TV (on which I have the brightness turned way down to decrease the flicker effect), put on my SleepPhones, put the TiVo on some old show, and then go to sleep.
Just like that. In fact, many nights I don’t even watch the little TV, I just drift off to sleep naturally. But, if I wake up in the night and can’t get back to sleep, I can turn it on, put on the headphones, and doze right back off. Also note that after a while the stretchiness of the SleepPhones starts to wear out (they are essentially a headband with little imbedded speakers that align with your ears), so when I fall asleep and move my head, the little speakers move off my ears so that I don’t hear the TV as I sleep, usually.
So, this has become the nearly perfect solution. The light from the little TV doesn’t bother my wife, the SleepPhones are comfortable, the TiVo has a nice selection of shows, and I sleep very well every single night.
Note that I have a job where I am frequently awakened in the middle of the night to deal with issues, so being able to wake up and fully engage in work, then disengage and go right back to sleep is critical for me, and this works.
Your mileage may vary, and again this goes against almost all aspects of sleep hygiene. But it works for me, and works 99.9999% of the time. It has changed my life to the point where I don’t even think about sleep any more, I just sleep. After decades of having every single night be a stress-filled struggle, it’s an amazing difference. And it’s been working for over a decade now, so it’s not something new and novel that is working because of the placebo effect.
For those of you struggling with sleep issues, I can only suggest that you keep an open mind about what the experts might say about dealing with it, as every person is different, and what works for one person, or even the majority of people, may not work for you. So keep trying, because only by trying new things will you ever find what works for you. Good luck, and good night!